found this perfect little poem by none other than Rumi, the mystical Sufi poet, and thought it tied in nicely with my previous post.
enjoy.
Be with those who help your being.
Don't sit with indifferent people, whose breath
comes cold out of their mouths.
Not these visible forms, your work is deeper.
A chunk of dirt thrown in the air breaks to pieces.
If you don't try to fly,
and so break yourself apart,
you will be broken open by death,
when it's too late for all you could become.
Leaves get yellow. The tree puts out fresh roots
and makes them green.
Why are you so content with a love that turns you yellow?
-Rumi
3.21.2007
3.06.2007
changes.
i think i'm growing up.
although i realize i am light years ahead of many of the people i know in terms of maturity [yes, it's true], i know i still have all there is to learn about the world and the way it works. and i think i just figured out something monumental. this is very general, and it might help to think of the following, let's say, quasi-philosophy in terms of yourself, and your life, if you want. or don't, whatever.
i need to rid myself of the people who don't bring anything positive to myself and my well-being. not just negative people, but people who just don't make me happy. i feel like i've been too affected by others in my life, that far too much of my experience thus far has been a reaction. i've had enough of people bringing me down, making me feel unworthy and just not good enough. those people who put me in negative moods such as this, and make me ponder what's inside the minds of the "friends" i hold so close. my new question to myself, is basically, if you make me feel like shit, why do i keep you around?
good question. and i don't have a good answer. so i'm going to get rid of you.
i'm realizing more and more that a very small number of the friend base i have are ones that i care to be around, ones that i look forward to spending time with. these, are friends worth my time, effort, ears, advice, tears and unconditional love. all the others, who wouldn't give the same to me, the ones who are far too self-absorbed to ask how i am, and appreciate who i am just aren't worth it anymore.
this, in effect, leaves me with very FEW friends. but at least they're friends that mean something to me, and that i know i mean something to. these are friends that know something's wrong even when i don't want to say it, that know when i need something and when i need to be left alone, and ones that take these feelings and states in stride, and don't judge or gossip, ones that understand on a level that can't be surpassed, because they're just the same; they understand me in terms of them, and i understand them in terms of me, and this works because we work. together.
perhaps this post is a tad idealistic in terms of my definition of a "friend" but i do have certain people in mind when i write this, and there are certain people who i just don't. i do realize that i've been blessed with the best friends i could ever ask for, and i am truly grateful for the ones that have been by my side through it all.
so, thanks. i hope i've been there for you too.
it becomes increasingly apparent to me that our happiness is determined by ourselves. we can't stand by and watch our lives happen, we have to make them happen with the tools and opportunities we've been given. surrounding yourself with positive people, and with people who have a positive impact on you as a person, and your life, is YOUR duty. i've come to realize it, now. as should you.
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although i realize i am light years ahead of many of the people i know in terms of maturity [yes, it's true], i know i still have all there is to learn about the world and the way it works. and i think i just figured out something monumental. this is very general, and it might help to think of the following, let's say, quasi-philosophy in terms of yourself, and your life, if you want. or don't, whatever.
i need to rid myself of the people who don't bring anything positive to myself and my well-being. not just negative people, but people who just don't make me happy. i feel like i've been too affected by others in my life, that far too much of my experience thus far has been a reaction. i've had enough of people bringing me down, making me feel unworthy and just not good enough. those people who put me in negative moods such as this, and make me ponder what's inside the minds of the "friends" i hold so close. my new question to myself, is basically, if you make me feel like shit, why do i keep you around?
good question. and i don't have a good answer. so i'm going to get rid of you.
i'm realizing more and more that a very small number of the friend base i have are ones that i care to be around, ones that i look forward to spending time with. these, are friends worth my time, effort, ears, advice, tears and unconditional love. all the others, who wouldn't give the same to me, the ones who are far too self-absorbed to ask how i am, and appreciate who i am just aren't worth it anymore.
this, in effect, leaves me with very FEW friends. but at least they're friends that mean something to me, and that i know i mean something to. these are friends that know something's wrong even when i don't want to say it, that know when i need something and when i need to be left alone, and ones that take these feelings and states in stride, and don't judge or gossip, ones that understand on a level that can't be surpassed, because they're just the same; they understand me in terms of them, and i understand them in terms of me, and this works because we work. together.
perhaps this post is a tad idealistic in terms of my definition of a "friend" but i do have certain people in mind when i write this, and there are certain people who i just don't. i do realize that i've been blessed with the best friends i could ever ask for, and i am truly grateful for the ones that have been by my side through it all.
so, thanks. i hope i've been there for you too.
it becomes increasingly apparent to me that our happiness is determined by ourselves. we can't stand by and watch our lives happen, we have to make them happen with the tools and opportunities we've been given. surrounding yourself with positive people, and with people who have a positive impact on you as a person, and your life, is YOUR duty. i've come to realize it, now. as should you.
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